This week I read the article “Is There Love After
Baby,” this article was very interesting in the fact that many people think
that once they have a baby that things will change for the better or the almost
failed relationship will somehow be revived. The author writes that half of the
parents will get a divorce by the time their child turns 18 which is a huge
number, and would scare anyone into not wanting to have children. The author
also writes that there is also a huge misconception about where the problems
are coming from after having a baby. Most of the problems are present, but are suppressed
and after the baby the problems are then reveled, and most often are blamed on
the new addition to the family. One of the major problems a new mother or even
father face is postpartum which can lead to child abuse. I think it is even
more dangerous when there is an unstable marriage. If I could talk to the
author I would want to know how to be better prepared for a child and how to
know when your relationship is stable enough.
I
know a few people that got pregnant in high school because of bad choices, but
not all of them doomed with no future. I don’t in any way believe that children
should be having children, but I know one couple who had a child but are now
married with another one. I believe that that proves their relationship must
have been right. It does not take much to get pregnant, but it takes everything
to raise one.
It would be interesting if a test could be created to determine a couples strength and if they are ready to take the next step, but then I also think that if the couple is wanting to take a test to see if they are ready, then maybe they aren't. but I also think that there really isn't a "perfect" time to have children.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you when you say children should not be raising children but when is the right time? Some people get pregnant in high school and thought they had made a bad choice but some get pregnant when they are young because they thought it was the right choice. Some parents are living in poverty but are amazing parents and some adults who are wealthy are not so great of parents, it really depends. Thanks for posting!
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